Belittling is a form of bullying. It’s when someone makes you feel as though you are little or not good enough.
Being homeschooled my whole life, I’ve had to deal with other people’s opinions, questions, and smart (butt) remarks. I’ve been belittled by strangers, friends, and even some family members.
For instance, I’ve been asked, “Don’t you get sick of being home?”, probably a couple hundred times. The answer is, I’m not always home. I go out quite a bit and I’m busy most of the time! But, yes, I have some days when I can get sick of staying home, just like anyone else. But, everyday I am realizing that I won’t be here much longer. It’ll be time to move out, find a new home, and create a life of my own. So, I’ve kept that in mind and I’ve tried to be grateful.
The next question I always get… “You don’t get to see your friends or socialize, don’t you hate that?”. My answer to that… I socialize all the time – and with more than just people my age. I can talk to anyone, any age, if I need to. I’ve always been kind of shy and I still have my moments, but my parents always taught me to be nice to people, to speak and have manners. If that doesn’t work, at least smile. So, no, I get to socialize more than enough!
The point being, I’ve always had to deal with people judging my life. I guess everyone has to, but being homeschooled seems to get more attention where I live because there’s not as many people doing it.
People also like to assume that I’m not very smart or that I’m socially awkward. I can’t say that doesn’t hurt. I’ve learned to just look past it, though. People don’t know what goes on in my life, just like I don’t know exactly what goes on in their lives. I don’t just sit around the house all day watching TV and eating potato chips like you might guess. I do my school work, workout, work on my website, do yoga, cook, clean, see friends, spend time with family, and I try/learn new things everyday!
Don’t judge someone or something if you don’t even know what you’re talking about.
That’s just setting yourself up to look ignorant.
I’ve heard that people only put other people down because they don’t feel good about themselves. I will never understand why someone feels the need to do that. I could never do that, at least not on purpose. I’m the type of person that if I feel like I’ve hurt someone’s feelings, I feel terrible and try to fix it. It doesn’t matter how bad you feel about yourself, that’s not a good excuse to hurt someone else.
Lately, I’ve been trying to remind myself not to worry about other’s opinions of me (in a good way). I would go around worried about what people thought of me, like what if this girl thought my outfit was weird, or this person said my laugh sounded like a donkey, or this guy doesn’t think I’m smart, etc. Now, I’ve gotten to the point where if I have those thoughts, I remind myself, “their opinion of me is none of my business”.
My opinion of myself is truly all that matters. I determine whether I like who I am becoming or not. I was getting pretty good at reminding myself of that, too! Until today, I felt like my ego got knocked over by a bus.
So, I’m learning something new the hard way today. When people belittle you, remind yourself that you are important. Forgive that person even if you need to tell them how they made you feel. Do whatever it takes for you to get over it. Just forgive them. They probably have a battle going on inside their head that you don’t want to be a part of and it’ll help you move on.
Let the negativity, meanness and hurt end with you. Who wants to pass that on? I know I don’t!
Here are a few quotes that helped me through this fluctuation today.
Words of advice… People that truly love you will lift you up, not drag you down with them when they’re feeling bad about themselves. Pay attention to those who lift you up! You’ll want to keep them in your life.
I hope you all are having a wonderful day!